Because they are there. (In) Fidelity
Wednesday, April 8th, 2009 Here I speak of men and women in general. I have one caveat, when I speak of men, I am talking about me, and when I talk about women, women I know, and are a very limited subset, and not random, carefully selected 
Of women who either deceive her husband, or do not care that you put the cap (as they say in Chile) the legitimacy of whom are married off. And those are (thankfully, some thought that they should not, in any case, many illusions), a tiny minority.
And now, announced this, go to the blog
I am inherently unfaithful.
Not only my wife, with whom I've been married a good Decanters years, but also sometimes to my lovers. Sometimes I wondered if a lot of sense to work eight, ten hours, and instead of going home to play with my children, and then sit in the armchair while watching TV my wife and I hope that is the time (deserved) rest, rushing to throw the kiki on business dinner hours cover? especially if, from the sentimental point of view, there is already a mistress in the landscape, with whom there is a journey, and, above all, many nights stolen. They are the collateral benefits of the business.
Well, all this for the pleasure of sex? certainly not for that (oh so short!) set of thrills that make up an orgasm, not even for all the times above, nor for the often forgotten moments that follow, the two still recovering his breath, even embracing, while calming the heartbeat (the heart and other areas). Above all, as we said the other day, they are so few women with sensitivity, with which sex is a party!
Why, then? I have no answer, I think in part it is a silly thing like when asked Mallory (an ancestor of Hillary) why he wanted to climb Everest - climbing never managed - he answered "because it is there." Flying bird, the pot could be one reason, but not the primary, though one with the gun is always loaded (more and more as the years pass, the gun becomes virtual, in some have to pull simulator).
I think, at least in my case, much of the "need" to be unfaithful is the need to please, to be loved. And unfortunately, the only way we know ourselves beloved men (not loved, that is different, but accepted, appreciated) by a woman is that she will accept us in his bed - and body -
For women is more difficult. I think it has the same need to please (note, not talking about sex drive, this is another way), but of course the bed for her there is no proof of appreciation. Any man who is given the chance will lie with her, though she does not like a damn as a person. There's another blog entry, why are men so little selective?
Overall, if we assume that both sexes we need to please women more perceptive, do not require passage through the bed to be convinced they have done "tilt" and in any case the passage through the bed does not gives them the "guarantee" that if we bring to men.
Hence the reasons for women for "delivery" (I like this circumlocution as nineteenth-century) are on another level. When you go to bed is because the relationship has reached a depth in the merger of the bodies becomes necessary. As the reasons for its delivery (and pleasure, is another blog post) are much deeper than ours, because it responds to other needs and other physiology, their demands for fidelity, care and affection are also much deeper .
And the bad thing is that often expects us to share.
eye, there are also women who go to bed because they feel like, if any Hayles, as there are women who do well love or paella. But I think these (they fuck because they like, which are good love, and those get rich paella) are small minority. But as the witches, if any, Hayles, I found two.
(To be continued ...)
